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plax blog (8/29/14)

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Disillusion ...it happens sometimes
There's someone I thought I knew who turned out to be an entirely different person. We had fought battles together, against those who had attempted to publicly condemn us and sadistically tarnish our character among peers. I defended her to the end from false claims crafted to destroy her reputation. I pledged to always be there for her, and she pledged support for my heartfelt views and values. On many occasions she expressed that she shared those views and values as well as my level of passion about them. Sadly, her passion in this regard was not sincere.

This formerly great friend expressed much gratitude for my commitment to stand by her, defending her reputation during times of plight. She as well seemed grateful for my ongoing moral support. She told me that she would not have survived one attacker's goal of inflicting significant social damage upon her if I had not stepped in. She thanked me for believing in her and told me that I was a wonderful friend. She said that she felt extremely fortunate to be able to count on my being there for her.

So what happened? As it turned out, this individual, whom I considered a tremendous friend, had been more interested in managing and participating among our social community than in adhering to the aforementioned views and values which she professed to hold. She in fact was, and continues to be obsessed with online social community functions. She is a master of social rapport, so most folks tend to enjoy her company and are inclined to believe in and support her. She uses this talent to surround herself with a multitude of individuals. Some of those folks are genuinely good people (if a bit misled). While others... well, not so much.

Ultimately, my former friend's allegiance to her collective of 'friends' is her priority. So much so that when confronted with a choice between upholding those previously mentioned views and values (which she claimed to share with me) or supporting a position taken by some of her 'friends' who had decided to obstruct my efforts to enforce said views and values on this message board, she chose a path of support for those 'friends', and further chose to enter a mode of denial concerning their obstructionist behaviors. I thus made the decision to terminate our partnership. In response, my former friend proceeded to vilify me. In so doing, she denied my honesty and the absolute accuracy I conveyed within my account of events.

Thinking about the ordeal, I can't say that this former friend of mine suddenly changed into what she has seemingly become. She was likely always this way within her core. I suspect that she had merely been humoring me for the function that I was facilitating related to her great need to possess her social following among our online community.

One of the most disturbing aspects of this situation has been my former friend's retaliatory technique. As an effort of apparent convenience, she has re-friended the two people that I diligently defended her from in the incident involving fraud and attempted character assassination upon her by one of them, and an effort to distribute the fabricated claims by the other. I'm inclined to think that she did this to build group opposition toward me, since she knew that both individuals harbored existing contempt for me. Through this re-friending effort on her part, she has effectively turned a blind eye to the very individuals who had attempted to libel her (behind her back)... the very individuals that I stood against for her, ultimately proving that she was innocent of the fraudulent allegations being spread to others. But apparently my former friend's priority is that these two individuals serve her interests well (as far as strengthening group solidarity against me). And by the way, one of these two individuals has already submitted a sarcastically hostile post on this forum site. It is directed at me and it is replete with exaggerated and inaccurate statements, as well as a great deal of sarcasm.

Yes, I am sad to say that these actions are as pathetic as they sound. I fear that anyone who would do such things may resort to worse measures.

As I'm sure you can see, I am one who tends to openly express and explain my disturbing experiences. It helps me cope. While doing so may not be the best social idea -since many folks are put off by what they consider "drama" or "negativity"- I refuse to bottle up such greatly upsetting issues within myself. Instead, I vent my feelings and try to explain my views and the reasons for them. I've been inclined as such for as long as I can remember.

This website is many things to me... one of them being an outlet for my feelings. Each of my threads relating to this particular matter has been posted to the forum category, 'Controversial Topics', which exists for this very type of communication. And just to be clear, while I will screen out posts containing hostile rudeness toward anyone, I won't screen out a member's heartfelt feelings or descriptions, even when they appear negative. Those who are not interested in posts like the ones I am speaking of may simply ignore the 'Controversial Topics' forum category.

More to come soon...

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This is a personal weblog entry. Each description herein represents nothing more than my personal opinion based upon my own perspective. Therefore, no assumption should be made that any statements contained within this weblog entry are anything more than an expression of my own personal interpretations.
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