Just need some support right now...

[Cpara]

I know this isn't like anything I've ever posted before but...So I was born in Canada,my parents divorced when I was little.Both of my parents are Chinese.My Mom's side lives in Canada,and my Dad's lives in China.So I came here at the age of 8,and every year I'd go to China once.And every time I had to come back for school,I felt depressed,lonely,sad etc.This was probably the WORST time.I began to cry,feel sick etc.Because they are the ones I feel like family(since I've never seen my mom for the first 8 years of my life.)Any advice?

[kendrafitz]

Oh Cindy, I am so sorry. That must be so incredibly difficult for you. Does your family in Canada give you any emotional support? Maybe they can help with listening to how you are feeling?

I know you said you are really missing your Dad and his side of the family. Can you call or FaceTime with them? That might ease your homesickness a bit.

I wish that I could offer more advice. I know missing the people you love is heartbreaking. Look forward to all the good times that are coming up both with your Dad's family and just in your everyday life.

[spiritbird]

I too am sorry you have to go through these emotional feelings. In this day of e mail and other media words can get lost. My suggestion to you is to sit down and write your feelings down in a letter to your parents. Take your time in doing this and make sure to write what you are feeling. There is a great deal of power in the written word. Hugs

[Cpara]

Oh Cindy, I am so sorry. That must be so incredibly difficult for you. Does your family in Canada give you any emotional support? Maybe they can help with listening to how you are feeling?

I know you said you are really missing your Dad and his side of the family. Can you call or FaceTime with them? That might ease your homesickness a bit.

I wish that I could offer more advice. I know missing the people you love is heartbreaking. Look forward to all the good times that are coming up both with your Dad's family and just in your everyday life.

Thanks,I've just facetimed them,but it still feels different without them.:)

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I too am sorry you have to go through these emotional feelings. In this day of e mail and other media words can get lost. My suggestion to you is to sit down and write your feelings down in a letter to your parents. Take your time in doing this and make sure to write what you are feeling. There is a great deal of power in the written word. Hugs
:) Thanks for the advice!

[Casper's 2nd best friend]

Hi Cindy, I am not sure how old you are so I am answering this on the premise that you are old enough to be independent. In any case, make plans for the future so you have something to look forward to but (most people who have dropped out of school will tell you) it is important that you finish school first.
Before you make any life changing decisions please consider the effect it will have on your friends and relatives. Your family in China are probably very glad to have you to stay for short holidays but might not be too keen if you suddenly rocked up on their doorstep saying "hi, I've come to live with you". Ask them first if they can find accommodation for you nearby and that way they can think about the situation and, if they wish, invite you to live in their house.

[Albert]

Me, I have to go to China 2-3X a year, 2 weeks at a time. Cindy, I'd stay in Canada! Cold but CLEAN ! And the air wont kill you early.

[Cpara]

Hi Cindy, I am not sure how old you are so I am answering this on the premise that you are old enough to be independent. In any case, make plans for the future so you have something to look forward to but (most people who have dropped out of school will tell you) it is important that you finish school first.
Before you make any life changing decisions please consider the effect it will have on your friends and relatives. Your family in China are probably very glad to have you to stay for short holidays but might not be too keen if you suddenly rocked up on their doorstep saying "hi, I've come to live with you". Ask them first if they can find accommodation for you nearby and that way they can think about the situation and, if they wish, invite you to live in their house.
I have to stay at Canada since I need to finish my last year of university and it's probably better to find a job here.I do visit them for holiday every year.

[Lady]

Hi Cindy,
Hope your feeling a little better with the advice you have already been given. I wish I knew what to say other than think through your feelings. Try to understand why your feeling sad and why things are the way they are. I'm sure you will find a way to have the best of both sides of your family in time. Perhaps it was the fact that you aren't able to spend a holiday with all your family together in one place like many do. It's okay to feel the way you do, many of us have things going on in our lives that we too have some measure of difficulty in handling. Take one day at a time and work toward what you want for the future, one day you will look back and know you did all you could to get to a solution that you can live with.