Negativity

[CockatielOwner]

I met a man today who was hurling racist abuse towards me calling me a 'Immigrant' telling me to 'eff off back to my county. I mean why would anyone do this? Does the colour of a persons skin really matter? we all are the same inside. We all are humans. I mean that guy might have been drunk so I just didn't say anything back and tried to calm him down but he wont listen. It's sad tbh. I study in the UK and once I'm done I will work here pay my taxes raise my kids with British morals and values. Why would anyone be racist, It's sad because I believe everyone is the same! I could never ever be a racist. Ever. Everyone is equal. I have been the victim of racial abuse twice now first time I got physically assaulted because of the colour of my skin. Damn, I wish things will change. I know that 99.9% of the people in the UK are lovely people who treat you as a citizen and to the other 0.1% can you please just stop being so dim witted. To you it's just words coming out of your mouth to others it hurts, Why would you make me feel bad about my skin colour. I didn't choose it and tbh I'm happy with it. I got a heart like yours that pumps blood and oxygen. I think the answer to stop racism is to educate people more because to me a truly educated person can never be a racist :) Thank you all for reading this, Had to take it off my chest :)

[kendrafitz]

Adeel - I am so very sorry to read this. What a disgusting, horrible, ignorant man. I am not in the UK, but racism is everywhere. I really think that people who are so nasty and violent have issues with themselves. Like kid bullies, it seems to make them feel better to put someone else down. How very sad for them. But words hurt and I feel terribly that you were victim to his ranting due to his own inadequacies.

I agree that education does help. But also just know that each generation seems to have less. At least here in my part of the US. I know my kids are friends with kids of all different races. I actually call my sons group of buddies the United Nations, which I love. There is so much to learn from each other and share.

You are the better person for just letting it go. And not feeding into his junk. Just try not to let it get you down too much. That horrible man should not be given the power to ruin any more time in your life. He is not worth it, and sadly he knows he isn't worth much either.

[CockatielOwner]

Thank you so much Kendra! and United Nations made me laugh out loud hahahah

[plax]

Oh Adeel :( ..I, too, am very sorry that you encountered this person and his ignorant hatred :(. I agree with everything Kendra has so eloquently stated... there is absolutely no excuse for anyone treating another human being the way this man treated you! I abhor any form of racism, and certainly the described incidents that have so sadly happened in your life! They were perpetrated by loathsome bullies :(

I realize that you've just been through a very negatively impactful experience, Adeel. But my advice to you would be to try and focus on positive things and positive people as much as possible. Unfortunately, there will always be arrogant, ignorant people in our world who (for some reason) feel a need to condemn others as a way to make themselves feel superior - and in my opinion wanting to feel superior is the mark of a distorted mind! For what it's worth, racism will never be tolerated on this website!

I hope you are able to put the incident out of your mind and get back to happier thoughts very soon :)

[CockatielOwner]

Thanks for the support Plax :) I will put it behind me and keep on living my life happily :D

[2birds]

Adeel, You already realize that the amount of pigment in the skin makes no difference. The issues you point to are more about differences in having and not having, culture, and social divisions. In the U.S. there is friction along racial lines. In other places it may be religious (India for example) or tribal (Rawanda) or colonial (The Commonwealth) or political or historical (Isreal-Palestine) and so on.

As you witness these movements, witness the drive to divide, generalize, label, and dehumanize by labeling, you have to protect yourself and the ones you have agreements with. If your car breaks down in a neighborhood that is dangerous to you, do the sensible thing. It isn't about dark or light skin. The people there are dangerous to you not because they have more or less pigment, but because this is the way their egos react to the circumstances and conditioning.

People are so afraid of being nothing. Peace be with you always

[94lt1]

A large part of people currently drawing social lines, is due to he financial strain many countries find themselves under.. People too.

But there are also just reasons that have only to do with hate and difference..


This topic can be argued many ways.. But the biggest point to make is that people are starting to lash out. Many feel that their government is failed and should be doing something about illegal immigration and anchor babies and the like.. Others of course feel that we were all immigrants, or descendants of.
I personally think that as was said above.. Places are not safe for anyone.. It doesn't matter what race or creed you come from..

Everyone would do well to learn to defend themselves...

Sorry that you had this happen to you. We all bleed the same. Unfortunately there are those who feel differently..

[plax]

I think the best policy in Adeel's case will be to avoid wasting mental energy on the terrible experiences (as much as possible, at least). Instead, diverting focus toward the positive elements of life should help greatly. Granted, we all need to remain as safe as possible, and make doing so a high priority. But dwelling on a negative is not good for anyone's health, emotionally, mentally, or physically. Unfortunately, we can't change the minds of those with hatred in their hearts. Consequently, effectively avoiding such individuals may be the best first line defense.

[jtbirds]

You were the bigger person it is best to take that from the situation and move on. Many people do not have the mental restraint to deal with comments like those. Everyone pretty much summed up why someone would want to do it, but I will add I have been trying to make more peace with my body/mind/ others around me. I want to be a peaceful person that is healthy. Many people do not want this lifestyle they would rather do whats easy and hate:(. hating is easier then accepting the differences around you sadly. Good luck because with your attitude you will be the one taking the better path:).

[Mare]

Wow, so sorry you had to feel this kind of ignorance! Humans are not born with hatred, they are taught it. It's sad when they feel they have to share. Stay strong Adeel.

[Pablola]

I'm disgusted to read this


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