Had A Very Emotional Day Yesterday

[Blancaej]

So as most of you know I pick up Coqui on Tuesday. I've been waiting for this day since July 4th! The owners Linda & Luis were very happy that I decided to adopt Coqui, they really wanted me to be the one to give her a forever home.

Well the last couple of months, it has been real obvious to me that Luis was having a really hard time dealing with the thought of Coqui leaving. She was his mother's bird. I finally got a date from them but I was hearing constantly from Linda how Luis was having a hard time and that this transition was going to be hard for him. In the last month, he didn't even want to talk about the pick up and Linda avoids bringing it up.

Well I was starting to feel really uncomfortable with the situation. The last thing I want to do is pick her up and feel guilty and this adoption just wasn't feeling right because of all the feedback I was getting from Linda. So I did something very difficult yesterday. I opened a door for them to change there mind. Basically I left a message telling them that they know how much I want to adopt Coqui, but I also want to do what was right. I needed to know if this is really what they want. I know I had a huge risk of losing Coqui, but I didn't feel right about adopting her unless I knew for sure this is what they truly wanted to do.

I called at 8am and finally texted her at around 10:45 to see if they had gotten my message. She texted me back telling me they were discussing my voice mail at that moment and would call me in the afternoon. In the afternoon!! I couldn't wait that long for their decision. My heart was breaking as I knew I could possibly lose Coqui. I was in tears. I texted her back telling her the sooner the better as I needed to know how they were feeling and what the plan was.

Well it was good news. I got a text at 11:45 saying "Plans are not changing". Thank god!! I hadn't lost her. But that was a nerve racking morning. I still feel good about making that call because I felt it had to be done. I know now that Luis finally talked to Linda about it and they know deep down inside that this is the best thing for Coqui. The last thing I wanted to do was pick her up and not feel right about it or feel guilty. Now I know they are good with it and I can move forward with my planning. Phew!

I think I have just realized how much I have already grown to love little Coqui, even though she is not home yet. :th_biggrin:

Sorry for the long post. I wanted to share this with everyone here because I knew you all would understand.

[spiritbird]

I bet you gave a big sigh of relief. He is meant for you and family. I am sure the bird may go through some separation anxiety also.

[Blancaej]

Thanks Dianne! I know there will be a transition period Coqui will go through. But I am just glad this still worked out. I thought for sure they were going to change there minds yesterday! I have since emailed Linda and she sent back a really nice response. They really appreciated my concern and consideration of everyone's feelings in this situation. Now I am over the moon! I know all is good and I can feel good about this adoption! :th_biggrin:

[Honesty]

I am glad it has all worked out well for you Blanca. I bet you were on tender hooks yesterday! It was nice of you to give her this final option.

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[Blancaej]

Thanks Wendy! I think it was the right thing to do. Nerve racking, but the right thing. LOL! :th_biggrin:

I have to say that my excitement was effected because of all the things I was hearing about Luis. Now I am VERY excited and I no longer feel guilty about bringing her home. So it has definitely given me piece of mind that this truly is the right thing for Coqui and what her current owners want!

[Debra]

Oh, I can't imagine what you were going through waiting for their reply. It was a good thing to do, though. You're tougher than I am. I'm not sure I could have taken that chance.

[Blancaej]

Thanks Debra. Doing what you feel is right, isn't always easy. I am just thankful it worked out in the end.

[coltfire]

so happy for you that all worked out , now you can be excited about picking her up on Tuesday.

[Blancaej]

Thanks Steve. :)

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[plax]

Wow! What a risky decision! I'm truly thrilled for you, Blanca :). Now you can keep all of your Coqui signatures... and even legitimately create more of them :th_biggrin:

[Blancaej]

Tell me about it Tony! Lol. I can laugh about it now. It just felt like the right thing to do. It was heart wrenching and one of the hardest calls I've ever made. I'm just thankful it ended in my favor.

So Coqui stays in my siggy! :th_biggrin:

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[Mare]

I'm happy it worked out for you, Blanca :). I don't know that feeling about a bird, maybe not making it to me, but I can relate. When I brought Sassy home, a rehome, her owner was in tears when I took her away, I felt so bad. She called me a week later wondering how it was going and things were well. We couldn't believe how well she adjusted. She started to cry, again. I felt like I had taken a bird against it's soul mates will! I asked if she was having second thoughts about letting Sassy go and, if so, I would be happy to return her, if this is what she wanted. I know she loved Sassy, I think it was her hubby who didn't :(

[Blancaej]

My situation with Savannah was similar to Sassys Mare. Her previous owner cried when I picked her up. I knew she loved her, but she wanted what was best for her. She came to see her at my store in August and I could see it was hard for her. :( Savannah was stand offish with her and I knew that had to be difficult and must have hurt.

The thing about Luis is he doesn't have a close relationship with Coqui. Linda is the one bonded to her and has been her primary caretaker. Its gotten a little better over the last few months but he still does not have a full relationship with her. They have said themselves they are not bird people and they feel she Will thrive better with someone who loves birds and has more experience. In either case, I know Tuesday will be difficult for both of them. :(

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[Turquoise]

Glad you will still get your B&G girl, Blanca.:th_hug8: She will have a wonderful life with you and she is going to love traveling to your store.

It seems a lot of us have had similar reactions from previous owners. Mine tho was Ruby Jewel's breeder. She cried a few days before she got her ready for her flight to me & she was crying when she called me to say she had boarded the plane. Every time I spoke with her or she wrote about her she was crying & was so distraught at letting her go. I know it was because of Ruby Jewel's ordeal with her wing being ripped off at a a day old and Kitty felt so close to her. I almost told Kitty if she were having second thoughts and felt it was better for Ruby Jewel, then she could keep her. But unlike you, I was too selfish and wanted RJ for myself & couldn't let the words flow from my mouth or computer.

Kitty still comments on FB when I put photos up of Ruby Jewel how she still cries about her being gone, but that she is happy she is in a loving home and being taken care of. I personally think if I had found RJ a few weeks later for sale, once she had begun to show her personality, Kitty would have refused to part with her. She held her til she went to sleep each night and let her do anything she wanted while rearing her. I still feel compelled to ask if she wants her back at times when I know Kitty is still hurting inside from letting Ruby Jewel go. But, I am still too selfish to do that. :(

[Pinkbirdy]

Blanca ,I think you were right also in offering what you did [right on your part].Wrong [on them] for dragging you through this . Your going to be busy :)

[Blancaej]

Thanks De'Andrea. I know we are going to have a good time with her. And I wouldn't feel bad about Ruby Jewel. You did buy her from a breeder and selling birds is what they do. Sometimes I am sure they get more attached to some then others, but it comes with the territory. I know that once I take Coqui home Tuesday, there will be no offers for them to take her back ANY time in the future!

Thanks Terri - I do feel like I did the right thing and I also agree that it was really not necessary for them to drag me through this. But it has all worked out and I am getting Coqui! So I cant really complain at this point!

Today I got Coqui's spot all cleared out so we are ready for her cage and I made her & my other fids some toys, too! In less then 36 hours I will be on my way to go get her. :th_biggrin: It is a 6 hour round trip! :th_eek:

[Pinkbirdy]

I want to see the toys you made [your so creative] :)

[Blancaej]

I'm always working on new things and I didn't want you guys to get sick of seeing my creations. LOL! I will take some photos tonight for ya! I'm glad you enjoy seeing the new stuff I make. Marcus made Coqui a toy. He is very proud of it. I will share that one, too! :th_biggrin: